As soon as being a lesbian was equal to being not lesbian, all of a sudden I appear to have stopped 'cramming' anything anywhere.'Īnother commenter summed up the gist of the initial post in one sentence. When the laws about marriage were discussed, it was 'cramming down their throats', when health insurance was being discussed - the same, same again when adoption was discussed. When I hold her hand in public, same deal.
When I talk about my relationship at work, it is 'cramming things down their throat'. 'Ok, so I am a lesbian, in the relationship with the woman who is now my wife and the mother of my children for the last almost 2 decades (for reference that I really do have a ton of experience), and from personal experience when people say 'don't cram it down my throat' they mean 'stay in the closet'. 'I spend so much time surrounded by straight guys who talk about nothing except women's bodies and sex, but my pride flag bumper sticker is apparently throwing my sexuality in people's throats.' It's not just the literal definition of what they say, but how these terms are used in real life. This can range from being openly gay, mentioning your boyfriend to a coworker, etc to calling yourself a sparkle fairy or whatever. For example, 'shoving (being gay) down one's throat' is simply another term for being gay in a public space. 'The trouble is that the top phrases are all dog whistles.
